First four months in Howick

It was a very first difficult month, my room is really small. Making it difficult to find a suitable position for the wheelchair when helping me. I got a new 3/4 bed on Tuesday (13 May), my double bed just took up too much space.

Also the basin is far too low for me, which means I need more help.

Not to mention having to shower now, since there is no bath. It takes hours for my body temperature to normalise after showering.

I finally got Adsl on 19 March. So I had to use 3G for six weeks.  The connection was fast usually in 10-14Mb range, but I only had 20Gb for the month.

And to top it off, we waited until early May for the buyer of our house to pay transfer! 13 weeks after we moved. The first we knew about a problem with the transfer was 4 February, 4 days after we moved! So we have to ask the question, why did the lawyers doing the transfer wait till then to inform us. Considering most people pay transfer up to 6 weeks before occupation date. We’re still waiting for the buyer to pay the occupational rent owed.

For the first two weeks our dog kept my mom awake at night.

Frustratingly, as we suspected all along, it was confirmed in mid April that my helper is pregnant, despite all the denials! Which as most of you will probably realise is a major problem for us. My helper brought someone else and spent the last two weeks of April attempting to train her. Now that she’s on maternity leave, we saw how poor a attempt she made. My mom and I are having to slowly train her. Which is a frustrating mentally draining, repetitive task. By the third week she was virtually trained. The replacement has done a far better job and has shown how badly my helper was doing the job! We heard today (1 June) my helper had a baby girl yesterday.

Winter isn’t going to be much fun for me, even with an aircon. My room is a thoroughfare and my door is left open far too often. Even now in early May the temperature change has been difficult.

The move has helped the stress levels in some areas. But the additional things I need help with (mentioned above), have increased the strain on my mom.

2013 News

It’s been a long time since I posted. Since I made the choice as far as possible not to focus on the negative aspects in my circumstances.

Johan, my stepfather died in March. As a result of this and several other factors my mom has sold our house. We will be moving to Amberfield (Howick, KZN) in the new year. The unit is much smaller so we’re downsizing a lot, selling a lot of stuff, mostly for way less than they’re worth. Moving to Amberfield isn’t my ideal choice, but with my care needs, I have no other option.

Late last year I was sponsored a new wheelchair and Roho cushion by the Muscular Dystrophy Foundation. Unfortunately, I couldn’t adjust to the chair. Recently someone from CE Mobility came to see me, and after evaluating me has made suggestions for customizing the chair, which should hopefully make it more suitable.

This year a pastor from my local church has been doing bible study with me. It’s been a tremendous help since I went many years without meaningful group study.

One of the biggest issues for me with moving will be, what internet connection can I get in Howick? Amberfield doesn’t allow residents to have lines laid for Adsl. At present the options don’t look very good, slow, over priced, low usage, wireless options. I am still hoping a solution can be found. But whatever I’m able to get, I’ll probably need help paying for it.

I have done a few online courses in the last year. With the two I enjoyed the most being, Introduction to Systematic Program Design – Part 1 on Coursera Introduction to systematic program design & Metadata: Organizing and Discovering Information.

As I’ve mentioned in other posts in the past, I’m trying to bring my lecture notes from KMBC into the 21st century (font, formatting and style wise). But it is a larger job than I initially realised, it’s hundreds of lectures, far too many to do manually. So I’m slowly working on an automated system, it’s taking longer than I hoped. I’ll have to do a separate post on the technical problems I have to solve to successfully complete this.

I’ve spent a lot of time playing Command & Conquer: Tiberium Alliances this year.

And as those who visit me know, I’ve watched a lot of tv episodes this year.

Robert Fitch – The Obsolescence of Ethics

Ours is an age where ethics has become obsolete. It is superceded by science, deleted by philosophy and dismissed as emotive by psychology. It is drowned in compassion, evaporates into aesthetics and retreats before relativism. The usual moral distinctions between good and bad are simply drowned in a maudlin emotion in which we feel more sympathy for the murderer than for the murdered, for the adulterer than for the betrayed, and in which we have actually begun to believe that the real guilty party, the one who somehow caused it all, is the victim, and not the perpetrator of the crime.

Robert E. Fitch, “The Obsolescence of Ethics,” Christianity and Crisis: A Journal of Opinion 19, (November 16, 1959)

Extreme Devotion – Martyrdom

I’ve come to believe that God, in his wisdom,
allows martyrdom in every generation in part
because, without them, the reality of Christ’s
death for us becomes increasingly blurry. . . .
As we look at [the martyrs], the mist that
sometimes enshrouds first-century Golgotha
is burned away, and we see . . .
the Lord nailed to the cross.

Mark Galli, p217, Extreme Devotion

Definition of Worship – William Temple

Worship is the submission of all of our nature to God.  It is the quickening of the conscience by his holiness; the nourishment of mind with his truth; the purifying of imagination by his beauty; the opening of the heart to his love; the surrender of will to his purpose—all this gathered up in adoration, the most selfless emotion of which our nature is capable.

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